Question 1

When can we have sex again after having a baby?

Accepted Answer

That's the question everyone asks, and we'd like to gently reframe it. Most clinicians offer a six-week post-birth check as a baseline, but the real answer is rarely about a date — it's about a body that has been through something enormous and a couple whose lives have been rearranged. Returning to sex tends to be slower, more partial, and more seasonal than couples expect, and that's normal. This course doesn't push a timeline. It helps you meet desire and intimacy where they actually are right now — which may be quiet, may be different, may be ready in some ways and not others. If you have ongoing pain or specific medical questions, bring those to your provider; they're outside what any course can answer.

Question 2

Why do I feel like roommates with my partner since the baby came?

Accepted Answer

Because the co-parent conversation has expanded to fill almost every minute, and the partner conversation has gone quiet. This is one of the most predictable shifts in the first year after a baby — research on the transition to parenthood describes it consistently. It doesn't mean your relationship is in crisis. It does mean the partner-identity needs small, deliberate care to stay alive alongside the co-parent identity. Session 4 of this course is built around exactly that: tiny, in-your-control practices that don't require energy you don't have.

Question 3

I have no sex drive at all since the baby. Is that normal?

Accepted Answer

Yes — and there are concrete reasons for it. If you're breastfeeding, prolactin is doing measurable work to suppress sexual cues. Sleep debt alone meaningfully lowers the body's openness to arousal. The skin-on-skin demand of holding an infant all day creates real touch-overload, which can make adult touch feel like one more demand. Add healing tissue, hormonal shifts after birth, and the cognitive load of a person who needs you constantly, and "low desire" is the body responding accurately to its conditions — not a relationship problem and not a personal failing. Session 3 walks through this carefully.

Question 4

Is this course for both birthing and non-birthing partners?

Accepted Answer

Yes. The body session (Session 2) explicitly includes C-section recovery, adoption caregiving strain, and supporting-partner experience — not only vaginal birth. The desire and partnership sessions are written so either of you can do them. Many couples take it together, working solo first and comparing notes; many do it one partner at a time. There's no wrong way.

Question 5

Should we be in couples therapy instead of taking a course?

Accepted Answer

If something is wrong — postpartum depression or anxiety, intrusive thoughts, ongoing relationship conflict, unprocessed birth trauma — please seek a postpartum-trained clinician or contact Postpartum Support International (1-800-944-4773). This course doesn't replace that care. What it does is give you a calm, structured place to land in the in-between moments — a way to stay connected to your relationship between feeds, between appointments, between the bigger conversations. Many couples use it alongside therapy, not instead of it. If you and your partner are working with a postpartum-trained clinician already, this course can be a useful between-session companion: small enough to do in the gaps, structured enough to keep the work moving.

Question 6

How much does it cost?

Accepted Answer

All courses are part of Cuddle Premium — $11.99/month or $59.99/year, with a 7-day free trial. Try it for $0.00 and cancel anytime before the trial ends. The course never expires once you start it — many parents pace it across the first year and return to a session months later when the chapter shifts again.

After Baby

Five tender sessions for new parents — no timeline, no "bounce back," just the slow rebuild of being partners again.

Five gentle shifts for the new shape of you.

Five sessions, about 7 minutes each.

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