How Cuddle's AI Coaching Works

Introduction

Cuddle's AI assistant is like having a relationship coach who knows you intimately—understanding your communication patterns, emotional needs, attachment styles, and relationship goals. But unlike traditional coaching, it's available 24/7 and gets smarter the more you engage with the app.

What Data Powers the AI

Onboarding Responses

When you first join Cuddle, you answer questions about your relationship stage, goals, challenges, and preferences. This creates your foundational profile.

Personality and Compatibility Tests

Tests like Love Languages, Attachment Style, Communication Patterns, and Conflict Resolution Style reveal deep insights about how you and your partner relate to each other.

Daily Check-ins

Three types of micro-interactions build rich context:

• Mood Check-ins: Track emotional patterns over time
• Gratitude Check-ins: Monitor positivity and appreciation levels
• Intimacy Check-ins: Understand connection and closeness trends

Relationship Checkup

Monthly assessments with 25 questions across 5 key areas (Communication, Conflict, Connection, Fun & Excitement, Sex & Intimacy) provide comprehensive relationship snapshots.

Activity History

What exercises you complete, which questions spark conversations, and how consistently you engage all inform AI recommendations.

How AI Personalizes Your Experience

Daily Plan Curation

Your My Plan tab isn't random—it's carefully selected based on:

• Your current relationship stage
• Recent check-in patterns (e.g., low mood triggers supportive content)
• Test results (e.g., if you're Acts of Service, you'll see relevant exercises)
• Partner engagement (synchronized activities when both are active)
• Time since last Relationship Checkup

Personalized Insights

After your monthly Relationship Checkup, AI analyzes both partners' responses to:

• Identify alignment and misalignment areas
• Highlight strengths to celebrate
• Surface growth opportunities
• Suggest specific exercises addressing your challenges

Therapeutic Dialogue

The AI Therapist feature uses your checkup data to generate conversations grounded in evidence-based frameworks like Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Attachment Theory.

Smart Recommendations

AI suggests exercises, questions, and activities proven effective for couples with similar profiles and challenges.

Privacy and Security

Your relationship data is:

• Encrypted in transit and at rest
• Never sold to third parties or advertisers
• Private between you and your partner only
• Secure with industry-standard protection
• Yours to export or delete anytime

Cuddle's AI runs on secure servers with the same privacy standards as healthcare applications.

The More You Use, The Smarter It Gets

This is the magic of AI coaching: every check-in, every test, every exercise completed adds context that makes future recommendations more relevant.

Week 1: Basic personalization using onboarding data

Month 1: Pattern recognition from daily check-ins begins

Month 3: Deep insights from multiple Relationship Checkups

Month 6+: Predictive support that anticipates relationship needs

Think of it like a gym trainer who tracks your progress. The longer they work with you, the better they understand what works for your body. Similarly, Cuddle's AI learns what works for your relationship.

AI Augments, Doesn't Replace

While Cuddle's AI provides powerful personalized guidance, it's not a substitute for professional therapy. If you're experiencing:

• Persistent conflict or abuse
• Mental health crises
• Infidelity or trust violations
• Major life transitions requiring expert support

We recommend working with a licensed couples therapist alongside using Cuddle for daily maintenance and growth.

Related Articles

• How Tests Help AI Understand Your Relationship
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• Getting the Most Out of Cuddle's AI Coaching
• What is Cuddle and how does it work?