How Tests Help AI Understand Your Relationship

Introduction

Tests in Cuddle aren't just fun personality quizzes—they're powerful diagnostic tools that help AI understand the deep dynamics of your relationship. Each test you complete adds crucial context that makes your coaching more relevant and effective.

Why Take Tests?

Think of tests as giving AI a detailed blueprint of your relationship. Without them, AI can only make general recommendations. With them, AI knows exactly how you communicate, attach, express love, and handle conflict.

The result? Exercises and advice tailored to your actual patterns, not generic tips that may or may not apply.

Types of Tests Available

Love Languages

Identifies how you prefer to give and receive love across five dimensions:

• Words of Affirmation
• Quality Time
• Acts of Service
• Physical Touch
• Gifts

How AI Uses This: Recommends exercises aligned with your love languages, highlights mismatches between partners, suggests ways to speak each other's language.

Attachment Style

Reveals your attachment patterns formed in early relationships:

• Secure
• Anxious
• Avoidant
• Fearful-Avoidant

How AI Uses This: Tailors communication exercises to your attachment dynamic, predicts conflict triggers, suggests attachment-repair activities.

Communication Style

Assesses how you express yourself and process information:

• Direct vs. Indirect
• Emotional vs. Logical
• Expressive vs. Reserved

How AI Uses This: Recommends conversation frameworks matching your styles, identifies potential miscommunication patterns.

Conflict Resolution Style

Determines your approach to disagreements:

• Collaborative
• Competitive
• Avoidant
• Accommodating
• Compromising

How AI Uses This: Suggests conflict-navigation exercises, predicts escalation risks, offers de-escalation strategies.

Intimacy Preferences

Explores your emotional and physical connection needs across:

• Emotional vulnerability
• Physical affection
• Sexual connection
• Quality time preferences

How AI Uses This: Curates intimacy-building activities, identifies satisfaction gaps, recommends gradual connection exercises.

How Test Results Power AI Recommendations

Pattern Identification

When both partners complete tests, AI identifies:

• Complementary strengths: Areas where you naturally balance each other
• Potential friction points: Mismatches that may cause conflict
• Growth opportunities: Skills worth developing together

Tailored Exercise Selection

Instead of showing every exercise, AI prioritizes those addressing your specific dynamic:

• Anxious-Avoidant couples see attachment-focused exercises
• Partners with different love languages get translation activities
• Conflict-avoidant couples receive gentle confrontation practice

Comparative Insights

After both partners complete the same test, AI generates side-by-side analysis:

• Where you align (celebrate this!)
• Where you differ (understand why)
• How to bridge gaps (actionable steps)

Predictive Support

As you complete multiple tests, AI builds a comprehensive profile enabling:

• Anticipating stress points before they escalate
• Recommending preventive exercises
• Celebrating progress as patterns shift

When to Retake Tests

Relationships evolve. Your attachment style, communication patterns, and intimacy needs may shift over time, especially after:

• Major life transitions (marriage, kids, moves)
• Relationship milestones (first year, five years, etc.)
• Completing therapeutic work
• Experiencing significant conflict or reconnection

We recommend retaking tests every 6-12 months to keep AI recommendations current.

The Power of Completing Tests Together

While individual results are valuable, the real magic happens when both partners participate:

1. Mutual understanding: See your relationship through each other's eyes
2. Conversation starters: Test results spark meaningful dialogue
3. Shared goals: Identify growth areas you both want to address
4. Better AI insights: Dual perspectives enable relationship-level analysis, not just individual traits

Getting Started with Tests

Find tests in the Play tab under the Quizzes section. We recommend starting with:

1. Love Languages (quickest, most immediately actionable)
2. Attachment Style (deepest insights into relationship patterns)
3. Communication Style (helps daily interactions)

Each test takes 5-10 minutes and provides immediate results plus personalized tips.

Tests Are Private Until You Choose to Share

Your test results remain private unless you explicitly share them with your partner. This allows:

• Honest self-assessment without pressure
• Time to process results before discussing
• Control over vulnerability timing

However, sharing results significantly enhances AI's ability to support your relationship as a unit, not just two individuals.

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