How much time do I need to spend in the app each day?

Introduction

Most couples spend 5-10 minutes daily on Cuddle. Research shows that brief, consistent positive interactions have a greater impact on relationship satisfaction than occasional long conversations.

The Science Behind Short Sessions

The real magic isn't in marathon sessions—it's in showing up for each other daily. Dr. John Gottman's research found that couples who turn toward each other in small moments throughout the day have significantly stronger relationships than those who only connect during dedicated "date nights."

Cuddle is designed around this principle: small, meaningful touchpoints that compound over time.

Typical Daily Engagement

Quick Check-In (2-3 minutes)

• Answer your daily question
• Complete a mood or gratitude check-in
• See what your partner shared

Standard Engagement (5-10 minutes)

• Respond to your personalized daily plan
• Try a quick game or quiz
• Discuss answers together if you're both available
• Send appreciation to your partner

Deep Dive (15-30 minutes)

• Complete a guided relationship exercise
• Take a comprehensive quiz together
• Have an in-depth conversation sparked by questions
• Work through a themed content pack

Flexible Usage Patterns

Weekday vs Weekend

Many couples do quick check-ins during busy weekdays (2-5 minutes) and save longer exercises or deep conversations for weekends when they have more time together.

Asynchronous vs Synchronous

Asynchronous: Answer questions throughout the day independently, then discuss responses later when you reconnect.

Synchronous: Set aside time to go through content together in real-time, whether you're in the same room or on a video call.

Morning vs Evening

Some couples start their day with Cuddle over coffee, while others use it as a wind-down ritual before bed. Choose what works best for your schedule.

Consistency Over Duration

Think of Cuddle like brushing your teeth—you wouldn't skip brushing all week and then do 30 minutes on Sunday. Similarly, 5 minutes daily is more impactful than an hour once a week.

Building the Habit

• Set a daily reminder in the app
• Link it to an existing habit (morning coffee, evening walk, bedtime routine)
• Start small—even 2 minutes is better than nothing
• Use streaks as motivation, not pressure

When Life Gets Busy

We get it—some days are overwhelming. On those days:

• A simple gratitude check-in takes 30 seconds
• Answering one question takes 2 minutes
• Acknowledging your partner's response takes 1 minute

Even minimal engagement keeps the connection alive during stressful periods.

Going Deeper

While daily check-ins are valuable, some content is designed for deeper exploration:

• Relationship Checkup (monthly): 15-20 minutes per partner
• Comprehensive quizzes (Love Languages, Attachment Style): 10-15 minutes
• Guided exercises: 15-30 minutes
• Content packs for specific goals: ongoing over several weeks

You can do these during dedicated couple time while maintaining quick daily check-ins.

What Couples Say

"We do our daily question over breakfast—maybe 5 minutes. But sometimes it sparks a conversation that lasts the whole meal." — Emma & Liam

"I answer my question during my lunch break, my partner does his in the evening, then we talk about it before bed. Total time: 10 minutes, but it keeps us connected all day." — Marcus & David

"We save our 'Cuddle time' for Sunday mornings with coffee. The rest of the week we just do quick check-ins." — Priya & Sam

Bottom Line

Cuddle adapts to your rhythm. Whether you have 2 minutes or 20, there's meaningful content for your timeframe. The key is consistency, not duration.

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